When you drunkenly ring my doorbell and wake me up in the middle of the night then demand to be let into my building without telling me who you are or what you want, guess what the last thing I'm going to do for you is? I hope you see this and realize what a fucking idiot you are. Because next time, I'm just going to call the police. —Learn to count, idiot!

Okay, I know it's an open public place. Meandering with coffee. Sampling a muffin or some sort of pastry. Yet there seems to be this treatment that the Central Library is like a cafeteria. The wafting stench of potent caesar salad dressing in the non-fiction section. The stinky roast beef sandwich coming from a nook on the third floor. And, as I experienced a few days ago, the kid who was noisily slurping his noodles which also stank strongly of soya sauce or maybe it was teriyaki. This is not a dam restaurant. Outside food should be banned in the library. Or there may as well be a bloody pizza oven installed in the history section. —Library lover, stick to the recipe books only

As a devoted vegan flower-power child, this week is a frustrating but popular event that makes me want to cut off my ears. I understand that the week of March 18-24 is one that is greatly loved and supported by restaurants and Haligonians. Sure, it’s great exposure and competition for restaurants. But constantly hearing what kind of flesh sandwich you can't wait to devour is extremely vomit inducing and hard for me to get my head around. I can understand that this week is one where people come together and bond over meals and get deals that allow them to have a cheap beer with their flesh sandwiches, but like WTF. I know that there is a demand for vegan/vegetarian burgers, and yes I know they've been minutely included in this event, but why isn't there a vegan Burger Week where I can celebrate how wonderful plants are and not be HIGHLY excluded from this event? Feeling like the only vegan in Halifax is one thing, but why can’t we all just chill and bond over plant burgers with each other, y’know? —Passionate Groovy Vegan Chick

Lately I go to the Tim's at lacewood plaza and it's a circus. One side of the place is women, the rest of it is men of the same nationality. Noisy, noisy noisy. About 10% of them have a beverage. One table has 8 guys playing dominos, but they slam the tile down on the table! ¡!very annoying. Bunch of kids running around. Just don't expect a civilized environment. Is this what we can expect as their public behavior. Get a keurig and invite some friends over. —my breaks are important to me

The latest pharmacare pamphlet (in white and blue) has a letter attached advising they are including a yellow pamphlet. Is this meant to be a cruel joke for seniors with failing eyesight? —Always Hopeful

Dating is hard. There is no doubt about that. Online dating can be brutal, especially out here. I moved to this city seven months ago from out west and am a single woman. I have been amazed at the lack of etiquette, the rudeness, the boorishness, the plague of ghosting and the lack of decency. Of course this can be common in many places when we can hide behind our screens and create any sort of persona we wish to create. Yet remember, and this is for women who are online dating as well, there is a person on the other side who you are communicating with. Feelings and vulnerabilities can be present. Don't make silly false promises and standing someone up after keenly at first wishing to meet is awful. No matter how beautiful or ugly or thin or large or dull or interesting or short or tall, whatever the excuse is, let the person know if you decide to change your mind. Going to a place and waiting, as I have, in a pub for instance and not even getting a text to say you can't make it(or don't want to) and ignoring the query for the no show is rude and cowardly. I'm not the only one this has happened to. Don't be a ghosting looser. And quit it with the sexual comments. It's tacky. Love is out there and don't wreck for those who wish to seek it. —A.Nowak, the disgruntled singleton

I was trying to remain positive about the shitty experience I had with [HOLE IN THE GROUND BAR]. I used to love this bar but I won't be going back again. After dealing with an unprofessional booking promoter who double booked the show and was unable to answer a facebook message or email for 9 days (looking at you [SHITTY BOOKING GUY]), we show up to a venue that divides its bar and treats you like shit the entire night.

I talked to a manager and things seemed to go alright. This of course was after [SHITTY BOOKING GUY] came to another show we were playing treated the band like goons and then ran inside to beg the promoter to send people his way (basically he cant seem to do the minimum in his job). I came to meet the manager.

She seemed smart and apologetic of the experience had by everyone. She seemed to take into account how the venue and [SHITTY SOUND GUY] fucked up. Even admitting that very few people knew that [SHITTY SOUND GUY] was leaving people to do his job despite trying to sell himself as a sound guy (by the by [SHITTY SOUND GUY] left before sound check).

The bar decided to throw out all this progress made and tell the day manager it was not her place to talk about it. The bar then extorted more money from me and threatened to ban me. I told them put the money aside that I would like to meet with the managers and owners. Weeks later I met with two managers who used this meeting to sneer down at me for a negative post on facebook that I didn't write, say they did nothing wrong, and trash on other bands that have been here for longer than my band has existed [MANAGER] specifically said "oh well [A SWEET AS BAND] doesn't play here anymore because he doesn't draw a crowd"). Then the manager berated me for wearing "only a vest and no shirt, so unprofessional".

[SHITTY BAR] has done nothing but double talked about "We hold a standard of sound for our shows and are building our reputation on it" yet saying in the same breath "oh we are not a show venue".

I from here on out will not be spending any more of my hard earned money at bars like this. I have played in a few different bars with my band thats been together for less than a year and we have never had such a shady, shitty experience.

—Bands that had a shit experience

B** about personal safety. I am having a great time downtown Dartmouth in various restaurants and bars. I'm nervous because I live on the peninsula, and worried that I will get beat up if I let that out. Just mentioning it gets a bad reaction, like mentioning 'Toronto" on the peninsula. Is it still ok for me to go to these Dartmouth places? I really like them, but just scared of the people if I tell them I live 'on the other side'. Why can't we just get along? —halivisitor

Everyone sees you walk to down the street everyday. They don't know where you are going, or how you got there. Your heart beats in pace with the sidewalk as you clench your hands and wonder what you are in for next. Through the careful art of make up and concealer with a bright smile and sense of humour - you have managed to keep it hidden. No one would be the wiser - You have a chronic illness. It has a grip on your life like no other. One moment you are happy, care free and then like a dark cloud it grips you. You want to fight back but you are paralyzed, saddened and consumed. You spend your days fighting with all you have to get better, to go to numerous appointments, tests and more. You face so much judgement. Some people think you are lazy, faking it, seeking attention or just don't want to work. Trust me, you would rather be in an office somewhere then sitting in a hospital room. The thing is, you aren't bald, and lack the typical signs of a sick person. Your days fluctuate between good and bad. You feel unlovable and worthless some days. Is it all too much? too much hassle? having to cancel plans or vacations. Limitations... fear of what could happen if you forget your medication at home. Life would be easier if he was with someone who wasn't always coping, having work problems, needing countless medications and bathroom stops. Maybe they would have more fun. Sure this sounds like a pity party for one. However the discrimination against people who have many "invisible" chronic illnesses is very real in Halifax. Remember just because you don't see something, doesn't mean it isn't there. —Breathing not so easier

Have I been on vacation? walked a lot in the cold? Endless other questions as to why I am a tomato face. I'd like to answer yes, Great vacation but.. I don't walk into your place of work and comment on your looks. hey, you're pretty bald.... etc. Ughh Rosacea is real and isolating as hell —SMega