But I think you've made a big mistake. You had a woman (Im calling her #1) in your life who's friendly and caring no matter what happened. She opened you up to a life without drugs, gave you support (saw it in her eyes at every NA meeting she came with you), and stuck by you even when you were having bad times. And she made you laugh. She isn't an addict but because you are, she stood with you. Then she stopped coming around.

Word is that you dumped her. And you are seeing a recovering addict now (#2). I know you think this new one knows your struggle better, but this is a disaster IMO. You're an addict working the program, do you think saddling yourself with a nice but messed up woman will help you? What do think is going to happen when you have to be on your own?

Last week at a NA meeting I saw #1 in another room with a bunch of people. She was smiling, laughing and looked like she's someone with her shit together. Then I looked at you and thought "Man, you were lucky. Lots of us only wish we had someone like that." I don't know what you are thinking but #2 isn't the best person to plan a future with, not that she's bad, but she has her own shit to deal with and in the long run will not be able to take on your shit too.

If you can, see if #1 will talk to you. Cause when it comes down to it, she made you happy even when your life was shit. #2 won't be able to handle it, sorry to say. Your shit and her shit together will be too much. And do you want to screw up all you have done so far in the program? I only write this because I can't say it to your face. Hate what I am sayin, but don't stay stupid. —Meeting Buddy