Hello my love, it's New York here. I miss you everyday, think of you often. I wait endlessly until you come visit my little Island. Hope to see you soon. Remember what I told you make sure you find balance in your life. Miss you. —Brooklyn Girl

There is no denying it. We all want to be the “cool” girlfriend. You know, the “wants you but doesn’t need you” girl - that does her own thing, that doesn’t rely on you, that never gets jealous. How desperately we want to be the girl that his friends attach adjectives like “chill” or “cool” to when brought up in conversation between beer pong and fist pumping. Cool girlfriends are afraid to ask for what they want from a man. Whether it’s commitment, affection or more time, asking is really fucking hard. So we don’t. We don’t want to be controlling or needy, so we deny ourselves the things that we want and need. We swallow our insecurities, we let the things that bother us roll of our shoulders. We do this in the name of self reliance (coolness), and in the process, we throw away the real possibility of co-dependence. We give away the possibility of real love. This is the paradox. Girlfriends who are really cool, ask. If you want to be a cool girlfriend, you have to ask for what you want. Actually, you have to do more than ask. You have to BECOME SOMEONE WHO ASKS. It is easy. Set standards for yourself and never settle for less than them. If you become someone who asks for what they want, eventually you’ll find someone who doesn’t need you to. —Lindsay Proudfoot

I can't imagine this note will be posted before or through the long weekend so, this may be a “remember when” post. Thanks for the pretty smile this morning. No, I wasn't staring at your braces, I was curious about the missing bracket on your tooth. It struck me odd to see a pretty row of metal with a gap. Shrug. I hope the Easter bunny finds (found) you down in the south shore. Enjoy the long weekend and I hope we cross paths with each other again. You seemed really nice. —Mr. 6th to Ms. 3rd

You always approach me and talk to me whenever we run into each other. You are always so friendly and kind. I am afraid I have not been as encouraging as I should? I hope to change that and I hope you keep on talking to me because you're lovely. Let's hang out? —I should probably say this in person

i miss you —mockingbird

it's a long shot, but i thought i'd reach out and say hey. last spring i was walking down spring garden with fruit from pete's, and you were at the bus stop by subway/fickle frog. we made eye contact and i smiled at you :) i walked to public gardens to have a solo picnic and, you followed me in... i'm pretty sure, anyway. i had no idea what to do, so i just plopped by the water and ate an apple and got barefooted. you sauntered behind me and plopped down on the other side of the pond. we sat for a bit. i was too shy to actually talk to you, but i decided to bring you an apple. then you were gone when i got to the other side of the pond. gone, with your manbun and your backpack and your yumminess. we have seen each other around a few of other times, once on robie near tony's. i saw you at sobey's with a girl. i hope she's nice!! i've seen you walk by the good food, and we passed each other again on spring but you were on the phone and didn't see me. bleh! the price of not saying hey :) —coincidences n stuff

To the tall, curvy brunette who works downstairs at a north end college campus, thanks for wearing those sexy black leather boots (and everything else that went with them) all winter. —Leg man

I met you two years ago on St Patricks Day at Durty Nellys, after you have been celebrating with some of the boys you said. You invited me and my friend to sit with you and we all laughed and carried on. I was wearing a multi colour Kelly green , black, grey and cream sweater. You had on a tshirt and a yellow shirt. You were a teacher in Dartmouth you told me. Then you were gone but you asked where I usually went. I had just come from The Moustache and said sometimes I go there on Saturdays. You said maybe you would see me there next week but it wasn’t a place you usually went. So I was there the next week and old boyfriend showed up. Then you did too and I was shocked to see you. We chatted briefly but I was up on the dance floor a lot. You left and said Goodbye as you passed. I immediately felt like I had made a big mistake- again. But you gave me a gift that I will always remember- the fact that you came looking for me and I thank you for that. Love you my dear Dartmouth teacher. —Grateful Poet

To the handsome gentlemen in front of me at superstore with the kipper snacks, tomatoes and white sneakers... Has anyone ever told you you look like Andre 3000... Your gorgeous! —I'll donate that $2 tomorrow

I don't know when it happened, but we grew apart. We were the friend group that I thought would always last, instead we lasted up until the growing pains were too much. I'm sad to be out of it and on my own, but from out here I can see all the cracks in the foundation. I think I might be better off making some new friends who care a little more. —Don't Be Strangers